May I Have This Dance? Alexander Mark Rossi (FL. 1870-1903) My Father has a saying: "if you don't ask for it, the answer is automatically 'no,'" meaning, that if you don't gather your courage to ask for something that you feel is beyond your reach, you may be passing up a prime opportunity to get it, regardless. Over the years, I have benefitted greatly by utilizing this notion, even conservatively. The lesson that should be taught in tandem with this idea, however, is that you are not, in return, entitled to a "yes," just because you asked. I used to think that the key to success lay within the abundance of "yeses" one could distribute and follow through on. I would go out of my way, bend over backwards, to accommodate the fulfillment of the requests of others. Surely these favors would come back to me tenfold, no? I took on projects, classes, performances, dances with with people I just didn't feel like dancing with, all w...